Five Ways to Persist with your Goals – (Part 2)
- March 11, 2018
- Posted by: Avril Fortuin
At the start of 2018 I set myself a goal, and then I failed to do it, for two weeks running! How can that be? I set a resolution or goal and I didn’t meet it, two weeks straight.
Faced with this early failure it would be easy for my mind to run away with negative self-talk… “I am a failure…I may as well give up now! Everyone is going to know that I have been erratic, inconsistent and downright bad!” Sound familiar?
You may be beating yourself up about goals or resolutions that you haven’t kept. However there is nothing to be gained by going down that negative thought path.
But, I am not a failure because I missed one goal for two weeks and you are not a failure because you didn’t do what you said you would.
I started again and you can start again today.
Last post I gave you 5 tips to help you persist with your goals – read it here. Now I want to give you another 5 tips. These tips look at things touching on your deeper purpose and the reason WHY you want to accomplish your goals.
Five more tips to keep accomplishing your goals:
6. STAY IN TOUCH WITH YOUR WHY!
This is key! You need to know your reason or purpose. For example, when you decided to keep a journal you should know WHY you are writing? What deeper purpose does a journal give you? If you don’t have a strong reason to journal, you will soon tire of the exercise.
Knowing your deeper purpose is very motivating.
Once you know your WHY you should write it out in bright BOLD text! Find an image that captures the emotion or purpose and pin it to your vision board or on the fridge door – anywhere that you will see it daily – it is a powerful constant reminder!
7. THINK POSITIVE!
This tip is about starting to build your ‘self-belief muscle’! You can build your self-belief by using the proof from tip #3 in the last post. Let the growing chain on the calendar become visible evidence of your success.
The great thing is that you have the ability to control your mental attitude, (whereas you may face other obstacles which are beyond your ability to control). When you set and accomplish small tasks, you start to believe in yourself and your ability to get things done!
As your self-belief muscle gets stronger, you have less self-doubt. Your small successes will help you stay optimistic because you know that each small step takes you towards the bigger goal.
You start to know that any gap is only a temporary setback and this is a very useful piece of data.
8. STAY ACCOUNTABLE!
One strong motivator for me is to have accountability to myself and to my business partner. There are some goals you shouldn’t announce on Facebook (that is too public) but perhaps you can be honest with one or two trusted friends and ask them to help keep you on track.
They could just ask you how you’re doing with your promises to yourself. That matters because ultimately you don’t want to let yourself or them down.
9. FORGIVE YOURSELF!
Don’t let any small failure overwhelm you. Keep it in perspective! ‘Failure is only data’. See it for what it is and get back on with the challenge.
On the scale of things your failure to keep your goal for a week is kind of small. Thankfully, you can just pick yourself up and re-start.
So show yourself some kindness. Follow these tips and treat yourself well! Forgive yourself and choose to re-start!
10. MAKE YOUR CHOICE!
This final tip is about the mental game and the choices you make. In fact the choices you make are driven by your emotions (yes it’s all inter-related and too complex to go into here).
Emotions are very powerful and often overwhelm your logic. However you can choose which set of emotions you wish to wallow in. The dirty water of misery, or the clean fresh water of hope.
To help you decide which emotion you could tap into, you can recall how each one feels.
Dig deep into the sense of failure you might be feeling. Have you been here in this pit of failure before? How does it feel and what thoughts run through your mind? Alternatively, have you felt the thrill of success? How does it feel when you get something done on time? How does it feel when even a small thing is ticked off your ticked off your to do list?
Now, you get to choose. Which cup do you want to drink from? Which emotional pool do you want to wallow in? This is the year when you turn things around. Pick yourself up and get going again!
Nothing, absolutely nothing is stopping you from persisting until you accomplish your goals. Feel free to read the other 5 tips to persist with your goals.
Add your comments below. What tips help you to stick to your goals and move beyond feeling like you failed?